Waking up to passionate screams of "You Bastard!" and "You're a Whore!" today as channel G4 runs a marathon of "Cheaters" got me thinking about this whole phenomenon. I mean okay reality TV is brain rot anyway but this show makes me giggle and otherwise realize that there are very few adults in the world.
1st if all anyone who hires a crew to follow and document their suspected significant others' fraudulent activities has some serious security issues. Why, in the name of all things holy, would you contact a TV show to air your dirty laundry? What kind of selfish attention mongers are these people?
They are people ruled by the ID. According to Freud those ruled by ID are children. These people have no self restraint to deal with their problems in a civilized manner. Relationships should not and do not take precedence over making ones own life operate. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. Therefore these people are self centered jerks who shouldn't be in relationships anyway. They obviously have a deep need for some kind of self-righteous approval over their "cheating" other.
Wait a minute. . . . Being in a relationship means giving of oneself to another over you own desires. Providing for the other person in and of itself brings you fulfillment. This is happening in NONE of the televised confrontations. Now are these relationships broken? Certainly.
These publicity harlots should really be taking a look at themselves 1st.
Now a little about how i perceive men and women. Women rule the world, any man who thinks otherwise is kidding and deluding himself. He is just a child thinking with the wrong head. Men must understand that women will get what they want/need either in our out of a relationship. If you are the lucky guy who is with a lady and you are providing for her in all ways then you have nothing to worry about. Be secure in the fact that she IS WITH YOU. If she didn't want to be or you are a douche-bag then she WON'T BE WITH YOU. This should be plain as day. Apparently it is not. The preceding is not to assume that men are blameless. I also mentioned Douche-baggery.
Men if you are so wrapped up in your ill-perceived magnificence that you believe yourself a "player." For Gossake at least be honest about it. Women if he exhibits signs of "player-ness" then don't freaking think that you will be "the one" who will change him.
This is like relationships 101. What's the first few rules that anyone who is in a happy committed relationship tells anyone else looking for such:
1) Be yourself
2) Be Honest--we're not talking about little white lies that keep everything civil we're talking about the big things---are your needs being met---if you can't differentiate then there are larger issues at hand.
3) COMMUNICATE!!
Weeping Jesus on the cross! It really is this simple. If any one of these 3 rules is broken the relationship will fail. granted sometimes it takes a while for these thing to manifest. Why? People change. However, people change only because they want to. . . not for anybody else period.
Back to "Cheaters" The cheating person is looking outside a relationship for something missing. Usually, it is a lack of communication between partners. If you communicate then you will be on the same page. Through communication the involved parties will find that they either do or don't share the same future vision. If there is a vast difference of vision then end the relationship and be done, don't worry about the rest, happy people are better people. Through Communication the involved parties can discern the intent of the other, #'s 1&3 are about deception. If either one is broken then partners are doomed to failure. Why is this so hard?
It is hard for 1 reason. Emotional baggage. Emotions are not in any way rational. Life is not rational either but it takes rationality to work. Therefore emotions cannot and should not rule life.
If you are okay, then you can help someone else who is okay work out and tackle life's problems together and be okay. Anything else is illusion.
Of course. . . the preceding notwithstanding sometimes people are just shitheads and there is no hope at all.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
Garlic Auto Parts and a Jedi
Yeah, okay so the bread last night was slightly better than the 1st. Still it was a giant biscuit loaf flavored garlic rather than a nice fluffy loaf of bread. Apparently there are no "quick garlic bread scratch" recipes that crank out a fluffy loaf of buttery crusty goodness. Ohh well i tried. As such it isn't very hard to throw some ingredients in the bread maker and whip up a yeast leavened loaf rather than a chemical one.
on an unrelated topic. I work in the auto parts business. As such sometimes i get customers with unique requests. . . such as a 51' Hudson Hornet. "Okay dude. I'll see what i can score. What do you need? Drum brake shoes, both front and back? Alllll-RIghty then. . . . Well i got the rear and fronts they'll be here tomorrow morning. . . . ==flash forward===. . . you can't get them right now cuz you can't get the drums off. . . lame well we'll hold 'em till you can pick them up.
===Flash forward 4 weeks===
"Hudson Hornet yeah okay we got your parts. . . what!? The front shoes don't match. Well. . . . okay ummm. . . . No I've no idea why. . you might try to match them up on-line and give us a call or you can try Cut Rate."
(Side note: any local of Oly WA "Knows" about Cut Rate Auto Parts. Awesome, but a little on the odd side.)
So I sent my Hudson customer to Cut Rate on a long shot. . . SO the bloke walks in and gets helped by the newest noob there. Doesn't even have a name tag yet.
(a little about the A P Business there's a certain amount of "street cred" that goes into the business; if you don't know what your talking about, or never can get parts, if you are a useless parts man who can't look up, find, or otherwise solve folks' parts issues you don't survive very long in the business.) I digress. . .
SO this Noob
(now this noob has ZERO (0) street cred)
takes one look at the Hudson customer's front brake shoes and He goes, "Hmm, well those shoes are off a 50's Ford, I'll be right back."
Guy goes into the back comes out with a non-descript box, opens it up and the shoes match EXACTLY!
Now that is some serious Jedi stuff there. Kudos to the Noob at Cut Rate. Got my guy his parts. Awesome!
Had 1 other customer of note yesterday. . . 4 weeks ago came looking for a 54 Studebaker Freeze plug. So I'm thinking, "What in hell is a Freeze Plug?" As such I look around, but to no avail. I've got 'em but they're organized by measurement not by engine or make/model. Anyway i send the bloke to Studebaker or at least get the measurements and I'll fake it from there. Last night he comes in "I need a 1.5 inch Brass freeze plug for a 54 Studebaker silver hawk with a v-8. Bang got it. . . how much? $1.57. . . . . Auto parts has its odd moments
When you go please make sure you have right off, Year, Make, Model and Engine. . . it helps us all out.
on an unrelated topic. I work in the auto parts business. As such sometimes i get customers with unique requests. . . such as a 51' Hudson Hornet. "Okay dude. I'll see what i can score. What do you need? Drum brake shoes, both front and back? Alllll-RIghty then. . . . Well i got the rear and fronts they'll be here tomorrow morning. . . . ==flash forward===. . . you can't get them right now cuz you can't get the drums off. . . lame well we'll hold 'em till you can pick them up.
===Flash forward 4 weeks===
"Hudson Hornet yeah okay we got your parts. . . what!? The front shoes don't match. Well. . . . okay ummm. . . . No I've no idea why. . you might try to match them up on-line and give us a call or you can try Cut Rate."
(Side note: any local of Oly WA "Knows" about Cut Rate Auto Parts. Awesome, but a little on the odd side.)
So I sent my Hudson customer to Cut Rate on a long shot. . . SO the bloke walks in and gets helped by the newest noob there. Doesn't even have a name tag yet.
(a little about the A P Business there's a certain amount of "street cred" that goes into the business; if you don't know what your talking about, or never can get parts, if you are a useless parts man who can't look up, find, or otherwise solve folks' parts issues you don't survive very long in the business.) I digress. . .
SO this Noob
(now this noob has ZERO (0) street cred)
takes one look at the Hudson customer's front brake shoes and He goes, "Hmm, well those shoes are off a 50's Ford, I'll be right back."
Guy goes into the back comes out with a non-descript box, opens it up and the shoes match EXACTLY!
Now that is some serious Jedi stuff there. Kudos to the Noob at Cut Rate. Got my guy his parts. Awesome!
Had 1 other customer of note yesterday. . . 4 weeks ago came looking for a 54 Studebaker Freeze plug. So I'm thinking, "What in hell is a Freeze Plug?" As such I look around, but to no avail. I've got 'em but they're organized by measurement not by engine or make/model. Anyway i send the bloke to Studebaker or at least get the measurements and I'll fake it from there. Last night he comes in "I need a 1.5 inch Brass freeze plug for a 54 Studebaker silver hawk with a v-8. Bang got it. . . how much? $1.57. . . . . Auto parts has its odd moments
When you go please make sure you have right off, Year, Make, Model and Engine. . . it helps us all out.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Net Garlic bread
Well the 1st recipe was as easy as it said. However, It's more like garlic-salt biscuits shaped square than garlic "bread." As such it ain't bad but needing some sauce to counteract the "breadyness" of it. not bad just not quite. . . . it. Pizza sauce from a jar livens it up rather a little bit. It's a hit with the smalls for lunch!! So WIN! Got the other one in the fridge for tonight. We'll see how it goes for supper.
in a side note, the title is from the mouths of my kids but not bad for random askings. It is certainly better than any snarky sayings i could come up with off the top of my head and i didn't want to be cliche` so there. As for the answer to the titular question. . . comments are welcome. but don't be rude. crass, obtuse and even outright obnoxious but never rude.
in a side note, the title is from the mouths of my kids but not bad for random askings. It is certainly better than any snarky sayings i could come up with off the top of my head and i didn't want to be cliche` so there. As for the answer to the titular question. . . comments are welcome. but don't be rude. crass, obtuse and even outright obnoxious but never rude.
Garlic bread and the web
To make supper easier today I used a family recipe and got the main course going. However, a quick musing determined that another side would be in order to feed our ravenous family of five. TO this end I consulted the all knowing Google. First of all let me say here that Google does know all but I REALLY don't like it second guessing me and suggesting topics after the 1st few letters. Cheese on toast I can think for myself I am not a Sheeple. . . . . Now a relatively simple search of "Garlic Bread Quick Scratch" turned up the usual few billion hits. The 1st ten of which are probably most useful. Why so many hits? If people know how to research properly a few simple terms are all you need much less the countless hits that range from growing Garlic while baking bread to scratching quickly with a garlic clove to relieve an itch. SO really just give me the top ten and we'll call it a day Google. If Idon't find what I'm looking for there then I'll adjust my parameters.
But having turned up the search in question I found but 2 that were actual "scratch recipe" everything else required a pre-made loaf of bread. Since when is pre-made bread smeared with butter and garlic SCRATCH!!? Now I'm not saying that I don't do it this way but I am also poor. SO just nipping out and throwing even 3 dollars down for a loaf of factory bread is out of the question. I have the ingredients for home bread so why not? DO people not actually cook(bake) anymore?
The preceding being said, those of you who just toddle off to the local market for garlic bread and refuse to attempt it any other way are WEAK!! let me rephrase. . YOU are insignificant cooks who urinate on the craftsmanship and artistry of the humble household kitchen. Try harder, and do better. . . you may surprise yourself. to this end i am off to make my garlic bread from one of the two recipes I found that were of most help, took me less than 2 minutes to find and digest the ramifications. SO there you LAZY Chefs. . . .
But having turned up the search in question I found but 2 that were actual "scratch recipe" everything else required a pre-made loaf of bread. Since when is pre-made bread smeared with butter and garlic SCRATCH!!? Now I'm not saying that I don't do it this way but I am also poor. SO just nipping out and throwing even 3 dollars down for a loaf of factory bread is out of the question. I have the ingredients for home bread so why not? DO people not actually cook(bake) anymore?
The preceding being said, those of you who just toddle off to the local market for garlic bread and refuse to attempt it any other way are WEAK!! let me rephrase. . YOU are insignificant cooks who urinate on the craftsmanship and artistry of the humble household kitchen. Try harder, and do better. . . you may surprise yourself. to this end i am off to make my garlic bread from one of the two recipes I found that were of most help, took me less than 2 minutes to find and digest the ramifications. SO there you LAZY Chefs. . . .
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